Sometimes we allow strong emotions to hold us back from progressing forward in our journey with sorrow. Along the way if we allow, we have the opportunity to learn and grow as an individual. I came across some practical lessons written by Hardeman Nichols originally printed in a Breman, Georgia Bulletin that is worthy of reprint.
Express your emotions. Since Jesus wept (John 11:35), it should not be considered a Christian virtue to be unmoved by the loss of a loved one. There is a difference between expressing one's emotion and losing one's self-control. The Bible does not say, "Sorrow not," but it says, "Sorrow not, as others which have no hope" (1 Thessalonians 4:13). Seek the aid of your friends. When Paul neared Rome, the brethren came to meet him and he "thanked God, and took courage" (Acts 28:15).
Compel yourself to be with people. Your inclination may be to retreat into the refuge of privacy, but there is a greater need than one realizes to associate with others. David did (2 Samuel 12:19-23).
Avail yourself of spiritual resources. Even though you have not realized the importance of the Scriptures and their comfort, they can help in building your faith (Romans 15:4). The power of prayer and the peace of God are very precious possessions (Philippians 4:6-7).
Do not brood over what might have been. Both Mary and Martha said, "If you had been here, my brother would not have died" (John 11:21, 32). Loss can be an unfair reality of life. Actively pursue worthwhile tasks. Once the initial shock has been dealt with, get busy at other things (Philippians 3:13).
Make careful, thoughtful decisions (Proverbs 14:15). Increase your trust in God (Romans 8:28). As always, if you need to talk we are an available support.
