I discovered helpful resources as I was reading in a periodical recently. I came across a statement, ‘things don’t change people do.’ One of many common experiences I have encountered as I have listened to people as they shared their struggles with me in times of mourning is, ‘I never want to hurt like this again,’ or ‘Why does it hurt so much,?’ There are other ways to express the same idea. They are all saying or asking the same comment or question.
When we experience loss, whether by death or circumstances unrelated to death, we may feel like we are traveling in a tunnel. When we first enter the tunnel, we cannot see the other end. As we are traveling, it may seem like there is no end to the tunnel and there is no light toward the end. Perhaps we do not realize at the time, this experience no matter how brutal it may feel we will recover and we will change. Everyone who is works through their mourning will arrive at the end of that proverbial tunnel victorious!
It does take work. As unpleasant as this is, as grief is painful emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually, the fact that we will change may be even more unpleasant. We will emerge a different person at the end of our journey through the tunnel than who we were when we beginning. Our relationship to our loss depending on the depth of our investment will change also. This is not bad, just different. Without investment there can be no traumatic loss and without this loss there will be no grief. Yes it is true life happens and sometimes rain does fall, but a rainbow usually develops along the way. Some are; Romans 12:12; Psalm 9:9 and Don’t Ever Give Up! By Bob Spurlin.
