Derek Kerr once said, “Human beings are peculiar because all they have to do is talk about their distress and they feel better.” I think there is much more to it than this, but talking is an important step in our progress forward. When I have spoken to people who I observed have progressed and grown it seems universal in their own perception that they have not improved. It is interesting the difference in how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us in this journey with grief.
Why is it some in our own perception, think we have not improved, have not grown happier, and continue the same as when we began their journey? One common feeling seems to be that we equate because we still hurt, still do not like our outcome, that is, this changed life, the loss we are enduring, means we have not improved at all. That because we feel this way we could not possibly have grown, accepted our new life we are building.
Is it possible that because life moves forward with each step we take. Those small movements, choices and decisions build upon one another creating a life as we live it each new day of our life. We are so busy living we do not see from our perspective, how much we have grown. Those of us who have grown children can relate to this, because we probably remember times when we said to one of them how much they have grown in the past…you fill in the time span.
It is the same with us as we are walking the journey with our grief, we may not see how much we have progressed, but others close to us have seen and if we just ask them I am sure they will agree with my assessment, my how you have grow! Do not sell yourself short in your individual assessment until you receive the assessment of others who have walked with you. This is Sunrise.
