Date : 03/23/2012
 
"Control"

I am beginning to think it possible that many of us would not know how to handle life if it was peaceful and without turmoil. We may think we have a pretty good grasp on our life and are in control of our surroundings. The older I get the less I believe this and I wonder if many of us realize this also. We only pretend to be in control of our life. How many of us arise and greet each new day, and carefully schedule the day’s activities. Only to find out some of what is planned is fulfilled as expected, perhaps on occasion, most. How often do we discover some unforeseen events or circumstances, which compel us to change our plans?

So many other lives come into contact with ours that make it impossible for our schedule to remain exactly as we originally planned. Other people make choices, decisions that may impact and influence our day that force us to make adjustments, changes to our schedule. If we are struggling with anxiety, depression, or stress overload this may also influence and change the final outcome of our day. It may be that under these conditions we not only find our coping skills lacking, but also more easily agitated and perhaps have become our own worst critic. We may find ourselves hypersensitive to criticism, and feelings of anger, guilt and self doubt seem to take a stranglehold grip on our perception of life.

We want peace, but it always seems to be elusive. Yet how can we expect to embrace the future, when we are unwilling to let go of the past? Accepting our new reality requires us to forget what is behind, and press forward to what is before (Phil. 3:13-14). We want to control, disallow change, but change comes sometimes undesired and it requires letting go and letting God. There is a song that says along with Psalm 46:10-11, Be still and know that I am God. Yesterday is gone, today is. This is Sunrise.


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This article was submitted by David Coy,
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