All of us are grievers thousands of times over in our lives. This is because grief is a normal reaction to loss, and loss is natural part of our existence. –Therese A. Rando. What you are experiencing is normal as it is based on your individual personality, experiences, relation to the loss, and emotional development. You will with time and effort, progress forward even though you may not think so now. A man whose father, mother, wife and brother were murdered in the Holocaust said:, --Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the loss of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances…. Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.
Attitudes are expressed in several different ways; in our facial expressions , in our tone of voice or inflection, in our behavior or lack of it, in the way we perform tasks, and in the energy we put forth in whatever our hands or mouth find to do. A man was down and someone said, “That’s where the rascal ought to be” But never offered him a bed, Nor gave him water, bread or tea, and neither did he lift his heart and breathe a prayer in his behalf, But plunged in him a deeper dart by saying, “He is worthless chaff.” We may feel this way because of our attitude or we allowed another to form our attitude.
It is not what happens to you that determines how far you will go in life; it is how you handle what happens to you –Zig Ziglar. …our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure. The way you think about a fact may defeat you before you ever do anything about it. You are overcome by the fact because you think you are—Norman V. Peale. Decide you will succeed!
We have no control over natural traumatic events in life, we do over our response. This Is Sunrise.